How Do You Treat Yourself?
A balanced life is hard to achieve. We start off with few things to joggle with and things seem easy. There is play. Then there is play and school. Then there is play and school and social life. Then there is play, and school, and social life, and building a career. Then there is no time to play, school becomes work, social life slowly transitions into family life, and that career eats up 80% of your time. Things change and become more difficult to manage. With such a hectic schedule, it’s no wonder how some people lose track of what is important. Here are a few pointers on how to keep afloat.
How to Manage Life Events to Improve Your Mental Health
You hate them. You have become so tired and weary that there is nothing you would hate more than to have to dress up, spend time in a crowded place, telling people how tired and stressed you are. You have something to eat and make constant efforts to get out of there.
This type of attitude will turn you into a grumpy old man… in your 30s.
Celebrations are important because they mark achievements or milestones in people’s lives. The fact that they want you there should be an honor because they want you to share in the joy. If you actively take yourself out of people’s joyous events, you will be left with the ugly parts of life.
Pushing through life, one project after another, one accomplishment after another, finishing one only to start the next, is not healthy. You should pause and acknowledge your accomplishments every step of the way, so you always have an idea of where you are in life. Failing to do so only leads to unrecognized efforts and an underappreciated life.
Try rewarding yourself with something that is proportional to your achievement. Did you pull an all-nighter to turn a project in at the deadline? Then give yourself a few extra hours of sleep the next morning, and even a brunch at a local restaurant in the company of a friend. Attaching efforts to something nice and rewarding yourself afterwards creates a mental bond between the two. It will motivate you to do it again. On the other hand, pay attention to proportions. Do not max out a credit card just because you did not snap at the receptionist for one whole week.
Every now and again, redo your priorities list
If you paid attention to our opening phrase with the joggling and the things you need to worry about throughout life, you saw how things change. Therefore, it only makes sense that priorities change as well. But don’t expect them to stack up by themselves. It is a much more difficult process, one you need to decide upon with responsibility.
Live through the worst of times
Pain is part of life. So are loss, rejection, betrayal, disease, misery, sadness and many other such unpleasant feelings. However, if life has taken you down one of these roads, you should learn from them. Do not shut yourself up, avoid feeling for fear of being overwhelmed by these feelings. The sooner you walk down these roads, the sooner you can put these moments behind you. Cry all the tears, speak all the words, think all the thoughts, go through all the phases, until you reach a place of comfort. And you will know that those journeys have ended.
Stop comparing yourself to others
If what you have is what you always wished you had, then there is no reason for you not to appreciate your life, right? But what if your neighbor has more and better stuff, which he got without much effort. Then, by comparison, your effort pales, your achievements are smaller, your whole life seems unworthy. Therefore, comparisons can be very toxic as long as you take your eyes off your initial goals.
We sometimes insist on keeping around people who do not deserve us. We put them first, but they put us at the very bottom of their lists. If we even make the list. It is all good when the emotional investment is low. But when we expect the world of them, we simply put ourselves up for disappointment. But the good news is that we can get ourselves out of it just as easily.