Life Hack Challenge: Let It Go.
Do you know those kids whose parents push them way too hard and at one point they crack? And the whole world knows it’s comings and is preparing popcorn and hoping to get a front row seat to the meltdown? Then get ready for this doozy: when it will happen to you, you’ll be able to give them a one man show! Why? Because you are both the pusher and the pushed, therefore, you will experience disappointment at both ends. *grabs popcorn, pulls a chair*
5 Signs you are pushing yourself waaaaaaaaay too hard
1. You are both the bully and the bullied wimp, so…. which one of these two should you deal with first?
Both characters are an important part of who you are – the soft core you did not manage to strengthen, and the strong will driving you on. The only problem is that they are both just as strong, which is probably the reason why they have not cancelled each other out by now and they are making your life a living hell.
What to do? The thing is, both these voices in your head are just as important. Therefore, the couch potato will help you get a break from yourself from time to time, while the drill sergeant will never let you settle for anything less than your heart’s desire.
You see something you like and you set a new standard. Which is insane.
Many of the things we are presented by the media are studied and have whole teams of people working hard to make them seem perfect. So, if you see a good-looking person, a perfect job, a tidy house, a well-behaved child and a perfect health, all sported by the same individual, it’s probably not real. But you take everything as a standard because it is easier to set an unreachable goal than to deal with the real reasons why you are dissatisfied. Also, whenever anyone else has anything you want, it will make you very, very, very, very unpleasant.
2. You have ridiculously high expectations from everything
3. You need to do it ALL perfectly
OK. So, it’s nothing unusual to want to do a couple of things the right way. Be healthy, look good, have a happy relationship, a successful career, be a great parent/son/neighbor/friend. At one point, you will have to give up one to do another perfectly. And it is going to destroy you.
At least for now. You can get back at it soon enough. But not now. Not now.
You can see yourself as a strong-willed person who is determined to do whatever it takes to succeed. This includes pushing oneself to want more and pushing other people away in the process. Guess how everybody else sees you.
What to do? If nobody is there to call your crazy, you could just go over the edge. Try to keep some people around.
4. It makes you high strung and it drives everyone away
5. There is no real end to your struggles… just more dissatisfaction with yourself
It’s one thing to do some difficult things when it is all a means to an end. But when there is no real goal, only the constant struggle and dissatisfaction with oneself, you really should start asking yourself some serious questions. In the end, who and what are you trying to be? And why?
Nobody says you should not push yourself to do more, be more, have more. But you should have good reasons for doing so, accept your flaws as well as your strengths and do so to achieve happiness and satisfaction with yourself.